This was my motto for the year. I remember seeing it in the early days of January 2018 (soon to be renamed) on Tumblr (pre-censorship of course). I remember feeling a little confusion, and a lot of understanding at the same time. This will be the year.

As a new year approaches, we tend to look back and say how awful the last 12 months were and how exciting the new replacement will be. My first couple weeks of January 2018, I hoped for the same, but felt the negativity of 2017 drag on. Until I grasped TwentyGayteen by its septum ring, and took charge of how I was going to live the year.

I decided I was going to get involved. I was going to start dating – all sorts of people. Throw myself out there! I met some beauties and some busts. I matched with a lot of women who have no effort or attempt to carry conversation, learning some of the frustrations of queer women, and dating. I immersed myself in the queer, local, Toronto scene as much as I could. Learning what the city and community has to offer. Helping out with Pride planning, partaking in an international parade, and even embarking on a journey or two I never would have expected.

This year we saw a lot of representation a in the media. Fictional characters, Rosa Dias, Wonder Woman, both played by bisexual Actresses; Janelle Monae, Kehlani, Brendon Urie, loads of others who came out and made TwentyGayteen even gayer.

My timelines saw a lot of success and happiness around the world. Australia’s yes vote, decriminalizing consensual same sex relations in India, the ability to change your gender marker, or to mark an X on legal documents in Ontario. We definitely still have ways to go, but TwentyGayteen was a huge success in my eyes.

Let’s look back on all the positive, queer and loving goodness of the year, and not let it die as we go into the new one.

I plan to keep #TwentyGayteen alive annually. It will always be our year.